Amma Sue - November 2015

posted 25 Nov 2015, 08:34 by Richard Jones   [ updated 25 Nov 2015, 08:34 ]

Dear Friends

 “Remember, remember the fifth of November…”  so begins the old rhyme, and November certainly seems to be the month to remember; beginning as it does with All Saints and All Souls and moving on to Armistice Day and Remembrance Sunday.  Coupled with the growing shortness of days this can make November seem the saddest month of the year, which is perhaps why all too soon we will be concentrating on Christmas (something that many retailers have been doing since the summer!).  Nevertheless, even though it brings a sense of sadness it is good to remember those who have gone before us, those whom we love but see no longer; as Ecclesiastes reminds us: “For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven, a time to be born; and a time to die.” [Eccl. 3:1&2].

 In our modern society it is often that any discussion about death is tasteless and morbid, and anyone speaking about their own death is quickly assured that it isn’t going to happen for a long time yet, but the truth of the matter is that sooner or later we will all die.  Along with our denial of the naturalness of death we have also lost sight of the fact that to grieve and mourn is as much part of what it means to be a human being as it is to breathe.  We mourn because we love.  Today, society expects that we will quickly “get over” our grief, pick ourselves up and start life as if nothing had happened.  Almost as soon as the funeral is over we expect everything to be back to normal, and we should be getting on with things, when what we really need is time, time to stop and take a breath; to take the time to adjust to the changes in our lives. At the tomb of his friend Jesus took the time to weep and when he knew he was going to die he only asked his friends to stay as he took the time to pray, and weep and bargain with God.

The Gospels show us a Jesus who loved and as someone who knew and understood and shared the feelings of those around him.  He mourned when his friend died and got scared and angry when he faced his own death only coming to an acceptance after much emotional torment in the Garden of Gethsemane; Jesus lived the fullness of his humanness, he didn’t pretend to have feelings - he felt, because it’s human to feel.  He grieved because it’s human to grieve.  He knew for himself that there is indeed “time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance.”  And with and in Jesus we can know that we’re not alone with our grief, we’re not alone as we try to make sense of things and begin to find our own resolution.  Not that we ever “get over it” for we will never do that for there will always be a place in our hears which can never be filled, but there will come a time one day, when we reach a place of peace, where the pain of loss is not so acute and we can remember with bitter sweet thoughts those whom we love but see no longer.  But most of all we can hold onto the Christian hope, the hope of eternal life in Jesus, safe in the arms of God.

 With love in Christ,         Sister Sue